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I was doing some research recently and came across a young, blind, autistic lad singing ‘Open The Eyes of My Heart, I Want to See You Clearly’
This really struck a chord in me. I have put it on my study door as a reminder to see both myself and others with the eyes of my heart rather than from the eyes of judgement such as good/bad, right/wrong, like/dislike, love/hate.
So often, as we move through this journey we call our life, we find in difficult times, that what we experience is often what we think or fear is happening, rather than the reality of the situation. How often have we completely believed something about ourselves or others, to find that it just wasn’t true?
The lens through which we now see ourselves, others and the world, has been influenced by experiences we’ve had from the past, often from very early childhood. We tend to accommodate to, or rebel against the attitudes, beliefs and prejudices of the influential people in our lives as we’re growing up, for example parents, relatives, teachers and older siblings. These survival strategies helped us at that time, but they have no place in the present and rob us of an authentic life.
If we react rather than respond to the perceived or real difficulties that come our way, it will have a very negative effect on all of our relationships, including our relationship with our self. However it takes great courage to experience fear and pain and keep our hearts open.
If we close our hearts to anything or anybody, to that extent we limit our capacity to love. It also takes a lot of energy to keep whatever has hurt or offended us out of our hearts and it closes the possibility of empathy, compassion and healing.
If we look through the eyes of our heart, we can see clearly how this negative pattern repeats itself globally, locally and in our personal and work relationships. From this place we are in a better position to choose constructive responses in challenging situations, rather than being caught up in habitual and often destructive reactions.
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